MY JOURNEY WITH ANXIETY

Am I anxious or merely under immense pressure or stress?  That is the question I frequently ask myself when I wake up in a sweat at 3am most mornings.  You feel your heart racing, terrified that it might just leap out of your chest. You feel that knot of despair in the pit of your stomach.  Your mouth has […]

The Truth About Dating A Married Man

This is not something I’m excited to write about, but if we’re being honest, there’s a lot of us… Or rather, a lot of me’s. Women dating a married man. You’ll be surprised at how many women are curious and interested in exploring this dynamic. Exploring it because it’s been fashioned as something without commitment […]

THE KEY TO SURVIVING YOUR 20’s

Why acceptance, moving on and showing up are essential to your growth A year and a half ago, while working as an intern for South African women’s magazine, True Love, I had the opportunity of having lunch with well established women in their mid to late 40s. When asked which decade was the best for them, […]

Unbecoming – Self Mastery Tools

When you are continually reliving the same (traumatic) experiencethrough different situations know that it is time for change. When the self subconsciously manifests character flaws stemming from a brokenness of some sort undergoing a journey of unbecoming becomes an urgent necessity. I was selected as one of the candidates to be part of a two month programme last year which I unfortunately dropped out of as it re-introduced me to the self […]

African Women And Tribal Marks In the 21st Century.

Babajide Olatunji, ‘Tribal Mark’, Series III

Tribal marking in Africa dates back thousands of years, from inked symbols of fertility on women in ancient Egypt to tattoos symbolising tribal hierarchy. Tribal marks hold a fixed place in Africa’s history. Joseph Nyaaba Photography Born into a family that glorifies and conforms to tradition I was basically deprived of the agency to choose whether or not I […]

9 Things I Wish I’d Known About Pregnancy

family during pregnancy

We all know about the weird cravings, morning sickness and emotional outbursts. Hollywood and the media make sure of that. But there were many more things that happened while I was pregnant that I didn’t know would or didn’t know to what effect. Here are 9 things I wish I’d known about being preggers. Morning Sickness doesn’t always end in puking […]

Rape.

Rape is a crime that thrives on silence and denial. Rape culture normalizes rape and sexual violence is excused in the media. As objectifying women continues to be normalized the rape culture WE have created continues to flourish.   We live amongst a society where we are taught how to avoid rape instead of men being taught self-control. We are taught to yell fire instead of rape, […]

Menstrual Leave

calendar indicating p-m-s for all menstruation days

Menstrual leave is a good idea, but will it help break the taboo? Japan was the first country to allow ‘seirikyuuka’ (meaning ‘physiological leave’) in the year 1947, which grants leave to female workers who “suffered heavily” with period pains or performed work deemed “injurious” to their health during menstruation   Most of the organisations […]